I’d like for a moment to get off the track from the usual opinion write up and focus some attention to “moments of mourning” as I have entitled this article.
Quite sad to hear the death of a friend, relative of friends, and moreover if we talk about your own relative for that matter. In the last 7 years I’ve experienced how death had “visited” my own family, two of my beloved brothers-in-law passed away a year after another, but, the big blow came when my father died in August 2008 and my mother “followed” in October 2008. Sad, I may put it, very sad… a month ago, a friend of mine died here in Madrid, then days back, the mother of a friend back in the Philippines died as well, and just over three days, the brother of my same friend passed away as well. The mourning has yet to pass when I received a phone call yesterday evening from my sister back in the Philippines to break me the news that my brother-in-law, Joselito Laxa, succumbed beyond his physical life fighting against an illness.
Let me quote what Steve Jobs said before his death:
“No one wants to die. Even people who want to go to heaven don’t want to die to get there. And yet death is the destination we all share. No one has ever escaped it. And that is as it should be, because Death is very likely the single best invention of Life. It is Life’s change agent. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually become the old and be cleared away. Sorry to be so dramatic, but it is quite true.”
True enough, every beginning has its ending and at times it is very difficult to assimilate that reality, to comprehend the real meaning of Life, but, death has to be accepted that way it should be accepted. Because no one can really escape from it. It is a painful truth, but the road we trek when alive, is just as painful. Death could be the solution to someone’s pains and sufferings, to the misery and anguish of one’s life and once on the “other side”, be comforted and renewed – devoid of suffering and grief when living.
As it has been said “death is the end of a new beginning”. And I quote another saying: “For death is no more than a turning of us over from time to eternity. ~William Penn”. Indeed, we should be “happy” for those who have passed into the threshold of life to begin another for eternity. Our mournings are righteous, our grief are virtues, life itself can be cruel and at times you plead for “death” to resolve the griefs you’ve been afflicted with. But life should continue. It should be nourished no matter how difficult it may seem.
To conclude, allow me to give a quote about life: “Life is the fire that burns and the sun that gives light. Life is the wind and the rain and the thunder in the sky. Life is matter and is earth, what is and what is not, and what beyond is in Eternity. ~Seneca”.
We pray for the souls of our parted loved ones. May the good Lord keep them and nourish them in eternity….Eric